MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti, Nigeria.

Sunday Service

January 28th, 2024

Topic: WHEN MARRIAGE IS UNREASONABLE

Text: Luke 6;48-49

Minister: PASTOR NIYI OLUWATUYI

The MESSAGE:
Marriage is a principal factor to determine the eventuality of man after his life on earth. Marriage determines if a man will fulfill destiny in life or not. The first attack devil launched on man was his bone. Devil saw the future and launched the attack in the garden. In marriage committee, we believe that there is a department that focus on destroying marriage.Luke 6; 48-49: Pay attention to the attribute given to these men. There are two things to focus on; the two men experience same thing. One stood and the other fell.
Daily trust 28 April 2022 talked about how 49 couples were killed in 15 months. Different cases of death.Marriage is not designed to be endured, peaceful throughout. As a matter of fact it can be tragic; 
It can be (physical abuse and oppressive). 
It can be plastic(unreal).
It can be romantic. 
God designed marriage to be enjoyable.
There are different aspects that breeds problem in marriage;
-Contention for power: In cases where there’s power crisis-Control-Closeness; Most time you discover the women wants attention
-Lack of care-Respect-Recognition-Pleasure Factors that prove marriage can be unreasonable.
-When you refuse to allow God in your marriage. 
You can’t know a product more that the manufacturer. When God is not in the center of your home, there will be problem. 
The reason couples have problem is because one of them has backslide.  When God is not in your home, there will be problem. You need Vision to get married, you need wisdom to stay married. When the altar in your home is faulty there will be problem. 
-When you refuse to accept each other, lack of contentment, there will be problem. God in your life is very important so you don’t marry devil's sister as a wife and devil himself as an husband. Nobody knows tomorrow more than God. The reason so many home are damaged is because there’s no God in their life. 
-When you have God, you won’t miss road.
-When you refuse peace declaring war 
-When you refuse to adjust. When you newly got married you expect your partner to live up to your expectations. If you refuse to adjust your marriage will be unreasonable.
-When you refuse to communicate, patience and forbearance. When kigbo marries to kigba they give birth to wagb'ariwo. 
-When you choose selfishness above love, your marriage will be at risk.
Reasons marriage is unreasonable
1. Spiritual factor: lack of prayer, spiritual death, ungodly attacks. 
2. Reason marriage is unreasonable is due majorly to spiritual factor. There are three altars you must build in the home; personal altar, children altar, family altar. 
A true Christian is righteous.
A true Christian marriage is when two God’s children is joined in holy matrimony. 
Your marriage is a vessel, a calling. There is a purpose for it. When you remove spirituality, propeller, the marriage is ready to collapse. 
When you remove the spiritual factor, it is dangerous.
Limiting God in your marriage is dangerous; Romans 1:28. When you limit God in your marriage he will leave you to yourself. 
Things don’t just happen, 60% has happened in the spiritual realm already. Signs God is missing in a marriage
-Constant disagreement and quarrelling: In your courtship you and your partner fights a lot. You have made it an habit to use yourself to satisfy your partner. Courtship is a state of discovery, asking questions. Sister, stop sacrificing your destiny for another man. Your destiny is too big to be sacrificed. You’re the daughter of the most high. There’s a creature designed for you. Since I was born and now I am of age, I have never seen the righteous been forsaken. 
You’re the answer to someone’s destiny. Don’t bury yours for anyone. Nobody knows Okonjo Iweala's husband but we know her. 
Your husband is a billionaire, you’re a billionaire. Any man that demands for sex doesn’t value you. You don’t destroy your value. It is sex after marriage not sex before marriage.
-Constant crisis and fighting-Infidelity and inability to overcome immorality; Whatsoever God did not plant, he does not water it. If God did not plant your marriage, you’ll patch it forever. 
Remember, if God is not in the ship of your life, you’re alone. 
Any man asking for sex before marriage is a ritualist. 
Your life is too precious to be used. Preserve your dignity.
-Prayerlessness and carnality-Wickedness, bitterness and pain-Dead spiritual life.
Wrong foundation: Psalms 11:3 Why do you want to get married? You want to get married because of loneliness? Other people’s opinions? There are certain things that must not determine your reasons to get married: Your erection must not determine your direction. You want to marry because of beauty? You’ll meet other beautiful women going forward. 
You want to marry because of wealth?
Why do you want to get married? You want to escape pornography and masturbation, your partner can never satisfy you because you’re married to pornography.
What is the type of man you want to marry? Tall, Dark and Handsome and with 6 packs. You just described a chimpanzee. You want to marry a rich man? 
Where he is walking is not important but who is working in his life. 
If your choice of marriage is wrong, then you’re wrong. 
If your foundation is wrong, you’ll be patched.
Does that means if I marry right, I won’t have any problem? No, With God in the boat of your marriage, your boat will not capsize regardless of the storm. 
It Is good to be single, it is better to be married, it is best to stay married and be happily married. Know this; your marriage starts before your wedding day. It is better to be late than to be wrong.
You’re a believer, what is your business with an unbeliever? 
You have no business marrying a Muslim. When you have challenges in your home, who will you be calling?
Don’t marry an unbeliever in the church. Some of you are in a relationship that will end in tragedy and you don’t want to leave. This is dangerous. The  children of the darkness are wise in their realm. If there’s a God that answer prayers, definitely there’s a man on Earth that prays. 
listen to instructions.This is for somebody, there are some challenges you’re going through, and you want to follow that brother because of money, the challenges is temporary. 
Move closer to  Jesus. It is only God that guarantee your safety. Who is forming you determines how you’re formed
When you follow God closely, you can never be wrong.
3. Societal acceptability: Anything that is gold does not appear beautiful at the beginning, Most times you look at the physical not at the inside. As the Earth is far from the heavens so God thoughts are far from humans. Not all that glitters are gold. 
When you marry a woman, she’s still in her crude stage, you marry your wife and you compare her to other woman? That’s very wrong. 
You don’t want to labor and bring your spouse to your taste that’s why you're complaining and condemning your spouse. If you want your wife to look good? Buy her clothes. You need to invest, You want your wife to be extraordinary, invest in her. You want an extraordinary man? Invest in him. Social media has polluted the minds of many. 
The church is trying to use it but the darkness has really mastered it.
Never base your reasons for marriage on the following;
-Money, wealth and place of work
-Family backgrounds
-Lust, sex, infatuation
-Position in the church: He/she might be right but not right for you. 
Your choice making needs to be screened by the Lord.
Physical appearance as your reason for marriage is only pointing in one direction
- Academic qualifications must not be a determinant: 
Your husband may not have the qualifications that you have, he may not meet your standard. However he is the only certified David that can bring done your Goliath. Go and submit to your husband. Devil doesn’t need too much to destroy your home, he only needs the key. 
Questions:
1. What if the husband is not ready? Does it means I have to wait or the Lord’s design is delaying me?
Answer:
 This is a counseling question, we need more details about it. You need to see us at the counseling session. Sister, God is saying: Have I ever been late? You feel you’re late? if truly you are waiting on God, he is not late. There are lots of things that constitutes delay;
-Yourself, you’ve made your husband your friend. -Location, there are cluster group in marriage selection e.g campus fellowship, NYSC, youth church. 
Thank God for Gen 218. If God is truly delaying you, you need to wait. If it’s God, he knows you better. He’s not wasting your time
2. Can a week relationship lead to marriage? 
Answer:
Courtship is a time to ask questions. A week is very short so you don’t go into wrong marriage
3. Sir, you said we should not marry unbeliever, what if God says he is your man?
Answer:  
God has invested in your life, he won’t hand you over to a man that will mismanage you.
4. When can a teen prepare for marriage?
Answer:
 Marriage is not meant for teens, focus on your book. Any relationship you enter prematurely will lead to bitter experience.
5. As a couple, is it a sin when you assist your husband financially when he’s not financially fit and is it a sin if a man say thank you when his wife cooks?
Answer: 
This falls under love languages, say thank you to your wife, show appreciation. What this person wants is appreciation. If she does anything for you appreciate her. Learn to appreciate your spouse.
6. Why are the children of some pastors very wayward and stubborn while the children of other members are well behaved and good?
Answer: 
 Most pastors leave their children to focus on the members. Whenever you notice any lapses in your pastors life, go on your knees and pray. Defend your pastors, wives and children. Pastors end up fighting the battles they defended in your life. Pray for them. If the pastor have really labor for God no matter how far the child goes, he will come back to God. If the child has escaped your hands of teaching, he can never escape your prayers.
Omo ti a ba fi omi adura we ki sina
PRAYER POINTS.
[After Ministration]
1. Revival of darkness over my marital life, die in the name of Jesus AMEN

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