MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti State, Nigeria.

 

Sunday Service

 

28th April, 2024

 

Topic: UNDERSTANDING TRUE LOVE

 

Text: 1 Corinthians 13 vs 1-7

 

Minister: PASTOR NIYI OLUWATUYI

 

The Message:

 

The entire 1 Corinthians 13 talks about LOVE.

 

The definition of love has been bastardized. 

The definition of love we have in the world now is that, no one is ready to stay where he/she cannot benefit 100% from

The definition of love In today world is selfish and is about ME , I, and MYSELF.

We have the traditional marriage, contemporary marriage and Christian marriage. Many will say there is no Christian marriage 

 The definition of true love is not the same as the world has expressed to us, not Hollywood, Nollywood or Zee world.

 

Once you step Into a relationship and iniquity becomes the order of the day, God steps away from you and you are on your own 

If something is important to you, you will guard it. 

In true love, you will be cheated and you bear a lot of things.

 

If you are not satisfied with what you are seeing from afar, you need to draw closer

 

FACTS ABOUT TRUE LOVE

• True love suffereth long, love is kind love does not rejoice in iniquity

• Sexual feeling does not mean true love. Real love is beyond ordinary feelings 

• True love is commitment

• True love is contented (you are satisfied with what you have) 

• It bears all things, endures and doesn’t fail. Couple that are beating themselves once profess that they love each other until there is no more true love

• True love doesn’t parade itself and it doesn’t encourages  competition. You are to compliment and not compete.

• Anyone that truly love you will not seek for your down fall or pain

Sex outside marriage, will always cost you dearly 

 

CHARACTERISTICS OF MARRIAGE

 

1. It is godly 

2.It is born out of friendship

3.It is patient

4.It is not blind 

5. It leads to a glorious marriage

 

There should be no opposite gender that will take your air space.

There must be definition to every relationship. Because he is giving you money doesn't mean he loves you.

It is stupid to be desperate about marriage because you will make mistakes.

You need to learn from other people’s mistakes because your mistakes might be costly.

You need to read books about marriage so you can learn more about marriage even before getting married. 

 

DANGEROUS MAN OR WOMAN YOU MUST NOT FALL IN LOVE WITH

 

1. A man/woman that knows nothing about God

2. A man/woman that knows nothing about purpose in life.

3. A man/woman who knows nothing about the values and principles of marriage.

4. A man/woman that sees marriage as a pass to satisfy his/her sexual urge.

5. A man/woman that sees marriage as fun. An unserious person

6. A man/woman that can not control his/her anger

7. A man/woman that is insecure. Insecure people are those who are emotionally damaged. A man or woman who is threatened by your success .

8. A man /woman who is violent. 

9. A man/woman  that doesn't have anybody correcting him/her

10. A man/woman whose heart is hardened 

11. A man/woman who is possessive and domineering

12. A man/woman with red flags characters 

 

Your wife is your side chick/mistress, maid, nanny.

When you just got married, she is your side chick, when you have children , she is your maid, when you are old, she is your nanny.

 

Wife, you should be able to handle your husband without been confrontational. 

 

THERE ARE THREE RED FLAGS  YOU NEED TO BE WATCH

 

• Shallow characters; can be corrected e.g. eating too much, coming late

• Wrong characters; be watchful e.g. not hospitable, prayerlessness , difficult to correct. If you notice these in the life of a person, you need to be prepared 

• A womanizer, serial liar,  uncontrollable anger, immorality.

There is no free sex in life, if she offers you free sex ...RUN.

There is always a side post in your journey, don't ignore this sign post. 

Sex will cost you your destiny.

 

If you cannot manage your single stage right, you cannot marry your married stage right.

If virginity is not important, the Bible will not have put it there, ‘VIRGIN MARY’

 

TYPES OF LOVE

1) Association love: There are three different types of people:

Those placed In the garden

Those placed in the field

Those placed in the forest. We might be a member in the same church, but our speed is different.

2) Environmental love: people that live in the same area 

3) Vacuum love: when you loose someone and some one close to you is there for you, it is not love, the person is just there for you.

4) Sympathy love: is not true love. E.g. using sweet story for sympathy

5) Conditional love: when you love someone because he is giving you money.

6) Availability love: you are of-age, because someone is available doesn't mean he is yours

7) Deceptive love: love based on pretence, because you are gaining something.

8) Financial love: love for the sake of money

9) Sacrificial love

 

TYPES OF LOVERS

 Parasitic lover: love that is draining you financially and  emotionally. They don't have plans for the future. They only need you in order to pass through a difficult time.

 Destructive lovers: they have no plans for you other than sex

 Gift lovers: they shower you with gift and money for wrong purposes. They will give money and ask you to sleep with them

 Toddlers or feeding bottle lovers: they are immature, they cry, asking  stupid questions

 Wounded lovers: they were in a relationship and got jilted and they always compare you with there ex, they are dangerous.

 Nanny lovers: they are looking for someone to take care of their children.

 Desperate lovers: too desperate because you are looking for a man. It is better to be late than to be wrong. If you are late and right, overtaking is allowed.

 Status lovers: they want to marry you because of your status. They are dangerous lovers, they are not marrying you for you but marrying you for your position. Status are not always permanent.

 Secret lovers:  when you engage in secret love , it will burn you. When you are in a relationship, everybody should know. If he says he loves you and he is not proud of showing you to the world, then that is not love.

‘Broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.’

 Swing lovers: unpredictable lovers, always breaking up and getting engaged . They will keep malice conveniently.

 Boss lovers: they are boss lovers, they talk to you anyhow. Somebody that doesn't listen to your opinions. They believe they can do anything and nobody can question it.

 Jealous lovers

 Real and genuine lovers: godly, sacrificial, dependable and yoke bearer.

 

If you want to have the best marriage, you both must throw away all that  you hold dearly. Marriage will cost you and you must be able to bear it. You will take insult, marriage is sacrificial true love is also sacrificial 

 

Question 1: TRUE love endures, but can people who love each other be willing to compromise  at least 

 

Answer: In marriage there is endurance and through the process of endurance we begin by love...not by being judgmental, we need to apply wisdom. Correct in love, Don't correct to destroy.

Naturally, when you confront a man, he will not want to change.

Don't attack, you are loosing when you attack each other. You need vision to get married but you need wisdom to stay married.

 

Question 2: What about people that are in a  relationship and have already had sex, what is the solution?

 

Answer: You need to repent and discuss with your leadership and if there is any punishment you need to go through, you go through.

What ever God does not plant, he doesn't water it. You need to do restitution.

 If we need to suspend the relationship and correct the relationship for you to see clearly. Get a clarity for your life. Is it God that ask you to go into the relationship.

 

Question 3: is it good for a Christian brother and sister to have a long distance relationship and promise to keep the bed undefiled.

 

Answer: Personally, it is not healthy. In our ministry, courtship should be not less than six months nor more than 2 and half years.

Planning is important, how are you going to increase your husbands income, when you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

Don't do a lengthy relationship, plan ahead 

 

Question 4.: How do you distinguish between genuine love, infatuation and attachment.

 

Answer: Genuine love, It is not lustful desire, you have  a clear vision. Genuine is supportive, forbearing, interested in your success.  It is true love that would not mind that your wife will be more successful than you. 

Infatuation is always attached to a particular self pleasure. It is easy for the fellow to have a reason to love you e.g. money, sex. It doesn't stand the test of time.

 

Question 5: What is your take about age difference between a man and woman, especially when the wife is holder than the husband?

 

Answer:  Age is a number but the gap must not be much

As the wife,  you need;

a. to be born again. i.e. you need to become a true child of God 

b. to be humble

c. to be submissive

d. to be broken

e. to be trustworthy (not being insecured)

f. to be matured

g. care and understanding; You need to understand the person you are marrying too

h. a lot of patience

 

PRAYER POINT

Before Ministration:

Face someone and say this:

Any trap set for you and your destiny will not catch you in Jesus name.

AMEN

 

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