MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti, Nigeria.

Sunday Service

February 25th, 2024

Topic: MARRIAGE SUCCESS DETERMINANTS

Text: Proverbs 24:3-7

Minister: PASTOR NIYI OLUWATUYI

The MESSAGE:
Marriage is one of the biggest gift God gave to mankind. God said it is not good for a man to be alone. "One will chase thousands while two will chase hundred thousand".
Most couples understand that courtship is full of chasing but chasing stops after marriage. We stop chasing after marriage.
The first thing devil attacks in your home is what you do together. When you newly got married, you ate together, wear same cloth to church. If the enemy is able to uproot your togetherness your marriage will be deleted.
The more you behold Christ the more you be like him.
Wives, whatever your husband could have done to you, no matter the pain he has inflicted on you. Husbands "say I am sorry".
Wives say: My husband for everywhere I've hurt you, for every disobedience, I am sorry.
Proverbs 24:3-7
Marriage success is not by luck or chance, marriage failure is not hereditary. One of the things we believed when we got married is that we think it will be smooth throughout.
To be successful in marriage you'll work for it. Your marriage success is a threat to kingdom of darkness. When your marriage fails there's higher chance that the destinies of your children will fail. 
There are three rooms you should not wash your dirty linen in:
1) Children's room: Five things happens when you take your dirty linen to your children's room
I) They will hate marriage 
ii) Rebellion 
iii) Children will hate one another
iv) Your children will hate your God.
v) Your children will become menace to the society.
2) War room: There should be no disagreement that will prevent you from doing your morning devotion. Once your war room is down, the devil will arise. No situation must make you push God away from your life.
3) Bedroom.
Marriage can be tragic, traumatic, plastic, pathetic, romantic.
Determinant factors to getting it right
1) Personal relationship with God: The reason for many crisis is because we believe marriage will complete us. You must allow God to work on you. If God does not remove your excesses, you will struggle. You need to be a complete package and only your creator can make a complete package out of you. Only the manufacturer knows the product better. If your prayer altar cannot carry you, how will it carry your wife? You earn respect, you don't command it.
There are three people a woman will submit to naturally:
1) Pastor: They see him as a priest figure. Nothing invade your privacy without your permission. 
2) Her father: A woman will always submit to her father. Man is a figure of defence 
3) Her boss in the office: There are reasons why she submits:
-source of income
-he determines her progress 
As the husband, for you to earn her respect, you must invest in her vision.
John 15:5
2) Personal leadership: One of the biggest tragedy that can happen is marrying a disorganized man. A man who cannot lead himself, any man who propose a structure that is not organized to you is not worthy. If you can't allow an inexperienced driver to drive you, why will you allow an inexperienced man to marry you.
The first question you should ask when a man approaches you is "where are we going?".
A woman is a manager, she manages the home, her life, her husband.
If you can't manage your life, you'll fail when the life of others are committed into your hand. You can't control yourself as a woman to do morning devotion and you don't know how to manage money. Read the book of proverbs, measure your life with the virtuous women attributes and do the statistics. You can't pray and you can't fast, you can't discipline yourself. You're terrible with human relationship.
When things go wrong we always find someone to blame.
1 Timothy 4:10
3) Personal development: Adding values to yourself, what have you learnt? You need to add value. What are you bringing to the table? Or you think you're the table?
You're not the table, if you don't bring anything to the table, the table will be empty. While everyone is complaining about rise in dollar, some people are not complaining because the more dollar rate is going up the more their investment is rising.
Add value to yourself. Sister what have you done to add value to yourself?
It's arrogance and pride that makes it difficult for some people to add value to themselves
2 Timothy 3:16-17
4) Personal growth and maturity: Growth is vital, marriage is for men and women not boys and girls. Check your character and attitude. Develop tolerance, it is imperative in your marriage. You must be able to accommodate and you must be mature,. 
5 ) Personal responsibility.
6) Personal care: Take care of yourself spiritually, physically, mentally. You can fight any battle and win when you're mentally healthy. Stay away from toxic people. Your mental health is important. If all you hear is bad news about marriage, you'll be damaged mentally.
The calibre of people you work with determines how your marriage will be.
7) Personal discipline: Discipline in all areas; Spiritually, physically, mentally. Laziness is a sign of indiscipline
8) Personal finance
Proverbs 21 You need to know how to make money, manage money and multiply money.

Questions and answers

Question: Is it advisable for couples to attend different worship centers carrying out spiritual exercises under same denomination?
Answer: There's no difference, since you're feed with the same doctrine. But if there's a clause in it, you can speak with your spiritual father.
Question: Between a 25 year old rich man and a 35 year old poor man. Who should marry first?

Answer: I pray for you in the name of Jesus that money will answer to you.
Number 1- In marriage money is not the first. If money is the first what about sound health?
Money is important. Money without maturity is a mess.
Maturity without money will lead to frustration.
If your man is working you need to work as well. 
If money is the reason you want to marry a man, you’ll lose the marriage. 
Gone are the days when women stays at home. You can make your own money as a woman.
Brother, A man that cannot provide for his home is worse than an infidel.
If your wife sees your labour day and night, she will respect your efforts.
Wives, calm down, let your husband grow. Appreciate his little effort so he can take care of you when he is very buoyant.
In summary, money is important and you will have it.
PRAYER POINTS.
*[Before Ministration]
1. Lift up your voice and appreciate the Lord
2. Power causing me to keep falling into marital troubles die in the name of Jesus.
3. Every wickedness around my marital journey die in the name of Jesus.
4. Oh God my father, let your mercy cease upon the enemies of my marital life
[After Ministration]
1. Revival of darkness over my marital life, die in the name of Jesus AMEN

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