MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti State, Nigeria.

 

Sunday Service

 

31st March, 2024

 

Topic: HOW TO ENJOY 100% MARRIAGE.

 

Text: Proverbs 27:23

 

Minister: PASTOR NIYI OLUWATUYI

 

The Message:

Marriage is not meant to be chaotic, it's an answered prayer to life challenges. 100% successful  marriage is possible. You can actually succeed in your marriage while others are failing.

 

God won't be responsible for the mismanagement of the resources in your life. Your marriage is your gift and talent. God expects you to manage it. Hear this, marriage can be fruitful or fruitless.

 

Your marriage is your ministry. It is the responsibility of God to give you vision, it is your duty to carry out the vision. Time and season happens to everyone.

 

There are 14 things you need to manage which will determine how your life or marriage will be.

 

1) Spiritual management: If you mismanage your spiritual life, you have wasted the fuel to move your life. If your spiritual life is static, for you to have a fruitful life is at stake. Decisions have been made even before we were born. I hope you know the first person devil launched attack against was a woman? GOD used a woman to distort devil's plan. A woman is the weapon God has been using to distract devil's plan. So woman, devil do not like you.

Your spiritual antenna must be sharp. You need to be spiritually sound. If you're spiritually sound, your pastors will have rest. As the wife, you may be fighting with your husband, your husband can misbave, the devil is not  targeting him, he is targeting you.

 

2) Foundation management: You need to know that your foundation is the parameters your marriage stands on. You must be able to ask questions about your family. There are some problems you're facing, they are foundation based. 

There are different foundation: family foundation, marriage foundation: your marriage foundation must be built on Christ.

- Don't marry by selection

- Don't marry by manipulation 

In different denominations, there are structures and you need to follow the structure. If you fail to follow structure, you will fall into error.

-Don't deceive your pastors to get married.

-Don't marry by election. In marriage, majority do not carry the vote.

-Marry by intercession . There is more to marriage than sex and feeling

-Marry by consecration.

-Marry by intervention. Don't walk away from light

-Marry by inspiration

-Marry by information: Be informed or you'll be deformed.

 

3) Thought and imagination management: The devil knows your mind can be your trap or your salvation. What you see and hear forms your thought. I heard a preacher that said "taste it before you get in" my sister/brother, don't taste it oooo.

Woman always think they know men totally, who are those informing you? You should know better. Bad news and terrible news travels faster. You're married and you and your husband have not been reading. It is good when you both read together so that information can be perfectly received. You're planning to get married and all you're thinking about is wigs and bags. You're not thinking of edifying books. 

Before I got married, I have various collection of books on marriage. A lot of married people have made errors because they don't have information. There is something called preparing for marriage sister and stop praying your mother in law should die. What you need is knowledge.

 

4) Relationship management: One Paramount crisis center in relationship is: (in-law management) you must be able to understand that you need to manage your relationship

Know how to build bridge, walls, boundaries

To your fellowship and brethren that can influence your home, build bridges.

To your in-laws and families, build boundaries.

To your ex, build walls.

As a man, there is no one among your family members that should be more important than your wife.

There is no reason why you should still have your ex’s number on your phone. 

 

5) Communication management: Colossians 4:6. One of the major problem that needs to be solved is communication problem. Any man or woman that can use mouth to destroy you is not fit to be your partner. You must know how to use your tongue to strengthen your home. The strength of every man is his ego. As a wife you can make your husband do what you want by using your mouth to boost his ego. It is a foolish woman that argues with her husband. Brother, don't destroy that woman with your mouth. If you're perfect as a man, you don't need to marry. As a couple, speak more of your strength than weakness. Promote Christ in your home. Don't use your mouth to pull your home down. Everytime you say something bad, the devil is writing it down. 

You need to understand something like the act of body language. When you want to talk to your husband, move into his airspace. You talk about Delilah, you don't like her because she killed Samson. But you can learn this from her. When she wanted to capture Samson, she laid his head on her lap. Human has five senses, four of these senses are in the head. She was able to get what she want from him through that.

 

6) Mental management: You need to know what drive your spouse. You need to know your partner's interest. Visit him at his place of work. Don't talk down on your partner.

 

7) Health management: There are health challenges you need to take care of. Eat healthy, stop eating junks. Our parents of old live longer because they ate healthy food. Once you clock 40 years, you have no business with carbonated drinks. You must be able to manage your stress, take care of your kidneys and liver. Those of you drinking beer, you're damaging your organs. May the Lord help you.

 

8) Hurt and bitterness management: Betrayal is part of life. If you've never been hurt, you'll live long to experience it. Some of us, we've done so much damage to ourselves and we've been grounded to a spot because of offense. The offense is in your past. If you're not smart enough, it will destroy your glorious future. Your father betrayed your mother, your ex betrayed you and an innocent man became your husband and every time you look at him, you see your offender. The marriage cannot last. 

When you base your life on bitterness:

-Your life is in jeopardy.

-You cannot enjoy your health.

-Your spouse cannot enjoy you.

You should not look at the things of the past because you won't be able to look forward. You need to remove the pain of your past from your life. When you act by pain you act in error.

ALTAR CALL……

 

PRAYER POINT

Before Ministration:

1. My friend, anything in your life that cannot sustain what God is building in your life, be uprooted in Jesus name

2. Father, anything in my foundation that is negating my glory, be removed in the name of Jesus

3. Meet three people and say "my marriage will not be my burial ground"

 

After Ministration

1. If you have been hurt, say this while laying your hands on your chest: My heart, rest on the Lord, receive strength, receive salvation.

AMEN

 

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