MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti State, Nigeria.

 

Sunday Service

 

31st June, 2024

 

Topic: CAPACITY BUILDING FOR A STRONGER MARRIAGE

 

Text: I kings 3 vs 5-13

 

Minister: Pastor Niyi Oluwatuyi

 

THE MESSAGE

 

Most employer employ based on what you are capable to do, the task you are able to execute. In today's world, you are employed not because of your name or certificate but based on what you are capable to give.

The reason why people fail in marriage is because they fail to build capacity in marriage. 

The grass is greener on the other side because someone has watered and nurtured the grass to be green. 

 

If your marriage is not working, it  is because you have not built capacity. Jesus Christ has to grow 0in wisdom and stature before he started his ministry.

 

Six things that will determine your marriage:

 

1. Compassion

2. Yielding to the Holy spirit 

3. Wisdom

4.Choice

5. Knowledge ( level of understanding)

6. Capacity 

 

Things that we need to build capacity:

 

1) Love: Love is not proud, doesn't get angry easily. Love Is not a feeling but a series of action and attitude. Love is likeness. It is when that likeness is tested and then the love remains, that is when it can be called love.  Love endures, Love entails actions.  Love must be daily explained. Because he is spending for you does not mean he loves you. Love does not glory in sin, will not deceive, will not lie. Love must be tested. The no 1 capacity you must build is LOVE

2) Communication and understanding: Effective communication in marriage is essential for healthy and successful marriage. Listen more than you speak and avoid anger. Body language is very important, you need to develop how to communicate. You must know how to talk. Sister, you need to know that communication is weapon you can use to get what  You want. There is suicide in communication, there is timing in communication (i.e. when to speak and not to speak.) You need to hear what each other understands. When we fail to build effective communication, it brings misunderstanding.

3) Mutual respect and submission (Ephesians 5 vs 17): A man has an internal ego. Men, you don't command respect but you earn it. A woman will naturally respect a man that is a real MAN. You  must respect your husband and  a man must respect your wife. Respect is honouring your marital vows. Respect is saying I WILL HONOR YOU. Respect brings submission. A woman will naturally submit to a man that is a PRIEST, but for husband, submission will come naturally to a woman

4) Forgiveness and grace( Colossians 3 vs 5): Develop the capacity to forgive. If you refuse to forgive, the burden and the pain resides in you. In marriage, we need to learn how to forgive you.  When you fail to forgive, you will be short sighted, you will not be able to see the good in that person except pain. Holding grudges is a sign of immaturity, you need to develop the capacity to let go. The reason why some of our prayers are not answered is that the person that offended us, we are still holding on. Some are having health challenges because they lack the capacity to forgive. Mankind does not determine your value, your value is too esteemed. Stop looking for where people will accept you, always stand out. You are a destiny holder. Tough times don't last but tough people do. Sister stop throwing  yourself at any man, you are a destiny holder,  a destiny builder, a multipler.

5) Faithfulness and commitment ( Mal 2 vs 4-15): This is the capacity we ought to build, because infidelity is what everyone is bragging about.

Infidelity is in stage's 

1. Unconscious 

2. Conscious 

3. The actual ACT. 

There is no mistake , the devil will always prepare a platform. You must be able to define every relationship. You need to build faithfulness. Sis, how many brothers are you dating. The same thing you do in courtship is what you will do in marriage

Stop comparing your marriage with others

Marriage is not an answer to all life problem. It is a platform, like an operating system where you will need to install all other applications.

If you mess up your single stage, you will mess up your marriage .

 

Marriage is not a ticket out of poverty.  The key to your greatness is in your hands  and not what is in between your legs. 

 

ALTAR CALL

 

PRAYER POINTS

After Ministration

1. Wherever my breakthrough are, locate me now in Jesus name.

2. Oh God arise, connect me to people that matters in Jesus name.

 

AMEN

 

 

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